What Success is at Different Phases of Life- A New Perspective on Success A Viscous Circle

At Age 4 ...... Success is..... Not peeing in your pants

At Age 6 ...... Success is..... Finding your way home - From school

At Age 12 .... Success is... Having friends

At Age 18 .... Success is... Having a driver's license

At Age 20 ..... Success is .. Having money

At Age 35 ..... Success is... Having money

At Age 45 ....Success is... Having money

At Age 55 ...... Success is... Having money

At Age 60 ....Success is.... Having money

At Age 65 ..... Success is... Keeping a driver's license

At Age 70 ....Success is... Having friends

At Age 75 ....Success is .. Finding your way home - From anywhere

At Age 80 ....Success is... Not peeing in your pants

This is life

CHEERS

"Life is half spent before we know what it is."

Letter to Indian Railways Written in 1909

Okhil Babu's letter to the Railway Department (early 1900's)
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"I am arrive by passenger train Ahmedpur station and my belly is too much swelling with jackfruit. I am therefore went to privy. Just I doing the nuisance that guard making whistle blow for train to go off and I am running with 'lotah'in one hand and 'dhoti' in the next when I am fall over and expose all my shocking to man and female women on plateform. I am got leaved at Ahmedpur station. This too much bad, if passenger go to make dung that dam guard not wait train five minutes for him. I am therefore pray your honour to make big fine on that guard for public sake. Otherwise I am making big report to papers."

Okhil Chandra Sen wrote this letter to the Sahibganj divisional railway office in 1909. It is on display at the Railway Museum in New Delhi. It was also reproduced under the caption "Travellers' Tales" in the Far Eastern Economic Review.

Any guesses why this letter is of historic value?

RANDOM THOUGHT - EMPTINESS

Seclusion- A Prison for a Fool, A Heaven for a Wise- OSHO

EMPTINESS

This place is empty. 

Nothing in this place can give real satisfaction.

But still we all are spending our time collecting empty things from this empty place. 

We try to fill the emptiness by name, fame , money, power and sex. 

But then what's the medicine. 

Many examples have been set. 

BUDDHA, JESUS, Sai Baba, Mohammad, OSHO, SRILA PRABHUPAD, MAHATMA GANDHI, CHAITANYA MAHAPRABHU, MOTHER TERESA.

The real problem of emptiness is due to lack of spiritual fulfillment.

Conclusion:   If   You  don't want    to be EMPTY Seek SPIRITUAL Fulfillment. 

Today April 1st of 20-20

Lies Within You

Further today April 11, 20-20 further improvising on it

Some thoughts again on Emptiness- Alone- Higher self - Higher Connection.

It's very important to keep the mind empty. For any attachment with anything is a hurdle. The mind should be silent. 

The more I try to connect the bigger the hurdle is getting. Then there is pain. Then there is delay. Then there is a situation which you do not enjoy at all. 

So the final conclusion is stay alone stay single stay empty stay quiet. Put your time on important things and find solutions for the real bigger things in life. 

Make time real constructive. Its all in being fully empty.

AA Today April 11, 20-20 12.55 PM

DETACHMENT

Four Boyfriends: Understand the Concept

Four Boyfriends THIS TURNED OUT TO BE SO DIFFERENT FROM WHAT I THOUGHT IT WAS GOING TO BE.. IT IS A WONDERFUL MESSAGE!! ENJOY Once upon a time there was a girl who had four boyfriends. She loved the fourth boyfriend the most and adorned him with rich robes and treated him to the finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best. She also loved the third boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another. She also loved her second boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times. The girl's first boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth and kingdom. However, she did not love the first boyfriend, although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him! One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, 'I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, will I be alone.' Thus, she asked the fourth boyfriend, 'I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company? 'No way!', replied the fourth boyfriend, and he walked away without another word. His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart. The sad girl then asked the third boyfriend, 'I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?' 'No!', replied the third boyfriend. 'Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to marry someone else!' Her heart sank and turned cold. She then asked the second boyfriend, 'I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?' 'I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!', replied the second boyfriend. 'At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.' His answer struck her Like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated. Then a voice called out: 'I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go.' The girl looked up, and there was her first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect. Greatly grieved, the girl said, 'I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!' In truth, you have four boyfriends in your lives: Your fourth boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die. Your third boyfriend is your possessions, status and wealth.When you die, it will all go to others. Your second boyfriend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave. And your first boyfriend is your spirit. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world. However, your spirit is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you to the throne of God and continue with you throughout Eternity. Thought for the day: Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray. Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect. It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections. Be Blessed Not Stressed

 

Three Ways Leaders Make Emotional Connections

Three Ways Leaders Make Emotional Connections

by Scott Edinger  |   9:00 AM October 2, 2012 (Source - HBR Blog network)

When I first started working in then-Big Six consulting firm Coopers & Lybrand, the partner I was assigned to was a gentleman named Chris Abramson, and he had an enormous scale of responsibility. Yet whenever I talked with him, which was not that often, he gave me his undivided attention. He talked with me about my goals and my development opportunities. He shared stories about life (both his and mine) outside the office. Even in our short conversations, in which he frequently was directing me to do something, he injected some kind of personal remark or comment.

Chris Abramson excelled in one of the most important — and most misunderstood — of leadership skills: making an emotional connection.

Leadership has everything to do with how you relate to others and the quality and texture of those relationships. The higher up you go in an organization, the less important your technical skills become and the more your interpersonal skills matter. I've seen this confirmed in my work with hundreds of leaders and in reviews of 360-degree feedback data on thousands more.

The ability to make an emotional connection is so often misunderstood because it's not about being emotional or showing emotion. It's about making a human connection — one person to another. Chris Abramson had the ability to connect on that level with me, with teams, with an entire office of over 600 associates — to show us how important we all were to him and that there was more to our relationship than just the job at hand.

He was a natural, but there are some things the rest of us might do to forge these kinds of connections.

1. Like Chris, give people your undivided attention. This sounds simple, but it's easy to lose sight of. When I feel overloaded in the midst of ringing phones, e-mails by the hundreds, and a gazillion other things to do, I'll sometimes think about how Chris unfailingly engaged with people in this way, and the energy he brought to and created in those interactions as a result. He made us want to do more because we didn't want to let him down.
2. Be aware that emotions are contagious. Research has shown that a person's mood can be affected even by three degrees of separation from people they don't even know. So imagine your impact in the workplace on those who report to you directly. Whether positive or negative, your emotional state has a significant influence on those you work with, especially when you're the boss. We all have our bad days, but we don't have to multiply their ill effects. If you're feeling particularly anxious or negative, make an effort to quarantine yourself — do more of your administrative tasks, avoid situations that might trigger even more stress, take the afternoon off (you may do more harm staying on the job). On the other hand, when you're feeling especially buoyant, make an effort to spend more time with direct reports, go to more meetings, reach out to others in the organization. Use this time to your advantage and multiply your positive emotions.
3. Develop your sense of extraversion. Make no mistake, this is easier said (or written) than done, especially if you're naturally an introvert. But if you're a leader, you simply have to develop the ability to reach out to others, engage them in discussion, and actively provide feedback. You're the one who has to be out in front, taking the lead in developing these relationships. Even introverts can muster the energy to do these things and relate to others. (And then, when you're exhausted from it, you can sit quietly with a book.)

As leaders, by definition, we do our work through other people, and yet how easy it is to lose sight of that, to focus on the amount of work — the tasks, the output, the jobs to be completed. The irony is, the more you focus on the quality of those connections, the greater your quantity of output is likely to be.  

Shayari (HINDI)

Dilon mein tum apni Betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho 

........................Toh zinda ho tum


Nazar mein khwabon ki Bijliyan leke chal rahe ho

 ........................Toh zinda ho tum


Hawa ke jhokon ke jaise Aazad rehno sikho 

.................................Tum ek dariya ke jaise


Lehron mein behna sikho Har ek lamhe se tum milo Khole apni bhaayein


Har ek pal ek naya samha  Dekhen yeh nigahaein


Jo apni aankhon mein Hairaniyan leke chal rahe ho...................................................................Toh zinda ho tum


Dilon mein tum apni Betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho...................................................................Toh zinda ho tum

A STORY FROM NATURE

Baby giraffes never go to a business school. But they learn a very important management lesson early in life. A lesson that all of us would do well to remember.

The birth of a baby giraffe is quite an earth-shaking event. The baby falls from its mother's womb, some eight feet above the ground. It shrivels up and lies still, too weak to move.

The mother giraffe lovingly lowers her neck to kiss the baby giraffe. And then something incredible happens. She lifts her long leg and kicks the baby giraffe, sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.

As the baby lies curled up, the mother kicks the baby again and again. Until the baby giraffe, still trembling and tired, pushes its limbs and for the first time learns to stand on its feet. Happy to see the baby standing on its own feet, the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick. The baby giraffe falls one more time, but now quickly recovers and stands up.

Mama Giraffe is delighted. She knows that her baby has learnt an important lesson:

Never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

Why does the mother giraffe do this? She knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat. So unless the baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack – it will have no chance of survival.

Most of us though are not quite as lucky as baby giraffes. No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall. When we fail, when we are down, we just give up.

No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed, we need to learn to get back on our feet.

If you study the lives of successful people though, you will see a recurring pattern. Were they always successful in all they did? No.

Did success come to them quick and easy? No, You will find that the common streak running through their lives is their ability to stand up every time they fall. The ability of the baby giraffe!

The road to success is never an easy one. There are several obstacles, and you are bound to fall sooner or later. You will hit a road block, you will taste failure. But success lies in being able to get up every time you fall.