It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know andmay not like.You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely knowwhere you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly thegreatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don'trecognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job andrealizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly yourealize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and whatisn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy andyou try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothingto do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder whyyou can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else tooand cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. You want to settle down for goodbecause now all of a sudden that becomes top priority. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.You begin tothink a companion for life is better than a hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind standing tall for that specialsomeone which otherwise you had never thought of until now.You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, andtalk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, thefuture and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it.We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying ashard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends.... maybe it will help someone feel likethey aren't alone in their state of confusion.
Tis is called the "Quarter-life Crisis"
